‘Boomer’ mum slammed for making daughter do housework – while son does nothing

A woman has shared her frustration as her “boomer” mother still expects her to help with chores when she visits, due to her “antiquated views about gender roles”.

The daughter claims her brother doesn’t “lift a finger” when they go to their mum’s house, while she is asked to set the table, serve and clean up.

After finding the different expectations “infuriating”, the woman took to social media to vent about the situation. In her post on Reddit, she explained that she and her brother are adults who have both long moved out of home.

The user pumpernick3l wrote: “I have a boomer mother who unfortunately still holds a lot of antiquated views about gender roles. Whenever my brother and I visit her, she’s constantly asking me to help clean up or serve guests while my brother just gets to relax and not lift a finger.”

She continued: “It’s just infuriating – we both have full-time jobs, visit her at the same time, and she still places the responsibility of chores on me. I don’t get why she simply can’t ask him to do a few things around the house.”

The peeved poster received plenty of sympathy from other daughters in the forum, which is intended for women’s perspectives, Nottinghamshire Live reports.

Bekiala admitted: “Am a boomer woman and sexist. It took forever for me to see it but it is there. I fight it but can still feel it.”

Zorro6855 wrote: “My mum used to do this. For reference, I’m the boomer, she was born in 1928. I had a brother 18 months older. Every holiday I would be doing all the kitchen prep, table work, serving and clean up.

“Finally, one holiday I showed up on crutches, plunked my butt down and said no, can’t help, can’t lift, can’t carry, can’t clean. It was a bit of a s*** show but after that it got a lot fairer. And there was nothing wrong with me, I just had enough.”

SpicyMargarita143 suggested: “Just tell your brother to get up and help. You won’t change your mother, but you can change what you do and start setting a new precedent.”

Mermaid_Lily replied: “Yep. My mum does this too. My mum will even tell me ‘Get your brother a drink’ when we are both sitting in the living room talking. Why he can’t get off his butt and get his own drink is beyond me.”

Benkyker commented: “I also don’t think you should throw away a relationship with your mother because of this, that seems super excessive. Really, the simplest solution seems to be to ask your brother to get off his a*** and help.”

Lord_kristivas added: “Does bro shovel snow, cut grass, work on cars, or do other ‘manly’ tasks to help out in lieu of inside chores? If not, be the one to tell him to get up and help because your mom won’t.”