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A girl has opened up about her struggles navigating parenthood as she admits to lacking her “old life” which was full of alone time and “watching Netflix”.

The new mum, whose daughter is now 10 months previous, requested for recommendation on parenting discussion board Mumsnet the place she mentioned she could not “shake the feeling” of remorse regardless that her child is “lovely, sweet and independent”.

She opened up about her beforehand “peaceful” life, explaining how she was comfortable when she might work at home, have dinners and journey alone.

But now, her life has fully modified after giving beginning to her daughter, saying she fears the “constant sense of responsibility” in addition to having to be “alert” always.

Other dad and mom reassured her and mentioned issues “will get better” finally as she settles into motherhood.

Writing on Mumsnet, the unnamed mom mentioned: “My baby is ten months old. I love her more than anything in the world. I constantly worry about something bad happening to her. She is a lovely, bright, happy, sweet, and quite an independent child.

“But I simply can’t shake the sensation that I remorse having her. I simply wish to return to my previous life. I had a quiet, peaceable, unexciting life, and that’s what I like.

“I’m a very introverted, self-contained person and I was always happy just being by myself, working from home, watching Netflix in the evenings, enjoying nature, having dinner out now and again. Maybe a holiday once in a while.”

She additionally urged different dad and mom to share their experiences within the hopes somebody could have felt an identical method.

She continued: “I don’t like parenting. I think it’s mainly the constant sense of responsibility, constantly having to entertain a baby, never being able to just sit and relax and do nothing all day, always having to be on alert.

“I do know having an older little one will carry its personal difficulties, however I’m questioning if I’ll take pleasure in it extra as soon as I can purpose along with her a bit and she will be able to entertain herself extra?

“Or will I always regret the loss of my old life? Wondering what other people have found.

“I’ve learn just a few issues from folks with older kids who nonetheless discover it very exhausting and remorse it! But possibly it’s as a result of folks discover various things troublesome.”

One person commented: “I’d prefer to say it will get simpler as they grow old, nevertheless each of mine are disabled. Had one wholesome little one that randomly developed a really critical illness at seven years previous and now I can by no means change off.

“It’s all part of parenting, you learn to take it in your stride as they get older that said they do get better at entertaining themselves”.

“It gets better!” said one other. They continued: “I found the baby age mind numbing because you are constantly on alert but never really doing anything you want to.

“Once you do not have to look at each single factor they do, they usually really wish to do fairly enjoyable issues with you, it undoubtedly will get higher. Don’t get me fallacious, lengthy boozy brunches are a factor of the previous, however you get way more of your self again as soon as they get to high school age.”