Telmo Irureta: “No one gives me the opportunity to meet me and fall in love with me” | Culture | EUROtoday

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It's extremely scorching in Madrid and, even when we needed to, we couldn't chat contained in the bar the place we met as a result of the tables are too excessive and exceed the peak of Telmo Irureta sitting in his wheelchair. So we opted for the terrace. The particular person accompanying him insists on shopping for and making use of sunscreen to his face in order that he doesn't get scorched by the solar's rays that sneak by way of the cracks of the umbrellas, and offers him each few sips of his soda to drink. Suffering from cerebral palsy since he suffered encephalitis on the age of two, Irureta wants assist for nearly every part. His mind, nonetheless, strikes sooner than his tongue, and his concepts and phrases pile up earlier than cascading out of his mouth. He laughs at his personal jokes. Brilliant, extra tender than wild, he’s a pleasure to take heed to.

Sign your work Sexpiertos with Kepa Errasti. What is it like to jot down with 4 fingers?

We needed to speak about incapacity and intimacy, however so as to not focus solely on the protagonist boy, performed by me, we pitted him in opposition to a non-disabled lady, in a life disaster, performed by Miren Arrieta. I can not objectively know what it’s prefer to stay with no incapacity. So, Kepa, who was my trainer at theater faculty and is my good friend, offered that imaginative and prescient that I used to be lacking. We understood one another very effectively.

But they’re two males, and the feminine imaginative and prescient?

We have her. We are each very sissies and really feminists, and we’ve many ladies round us. I'm going to look horrible, however I believe that homosexual males have further sensitivity, a voice that’s extra just like that of a girl. At least I believe I’ve it.

Criticism rained down on him for saying when received the Goya that intercourse is a proper. How have you ever processed them?

At first I even discovered it humorous, as a result of they’d a really mistaken concept of ​​what I meant. From nameless Instagram profiles they referred to as me a rapist, abuser of ladies, and a whore. It was very curious that, once I stated that I’m homosexual, the waters calmed down. Their speech is a bit more lame when the particular person you pay for intercourse is a person. Many of those that criticize intercourse work care much less when the employees are boys.

Hadn't he come out of the closet till then?

I had a time of doubts, of realizing myself. At faculty I preferred some ladies, nevertheless it was as a result of she listened to me, checked out me effectively, gave me tenderness, however I’ve at all times seemed extra at boys. When I had it clear, I stated: I'm going to exit in an enormous manner. My mom informed me that I didn't must make it public both, however I believe it’s obligatory.

For activism?

For that purpose, and since I prefer to know who I’m. If individuals say they just like the music of The loopy's tune, I'm not going to maintain quiet that I'm homosexual. There are individuals in opposition to labels, however they assist me know who I’m. I’m Basque, I’m homosexual and I like Spice Girls.

Is incapacity a part of your id?

I want it weren't like that, however it’s. I’m not a type of who say that incapacity has opened different doorways for them and has taught them to be robust and have one other imaginative and prescient of life. No, incapacity is a bitch, I’m the best way I’m additionally partly due to the incapacity, however look, it doesn't compensate me [se parte de risa].

Do you dream that you just stroll?

I as soon as dreamed {that a} bull was following me and I used to be so afraid that I threw myself out of a window. I assumed: as soon as I run, I'll kill myself. [se parte]. No, I don't dream that I'm strolling, I don't even get up. I believe that, when you may stroll, the thought of ​​the chair appears tougher, stronger. Actually, it's not that onerous. I imply, it's laborious, however not as a result of you may't stroll, however due to the way it impacts individuals.

What do you see within the eyes of others?

Fear and rejection.

And pity?

Also, however that bothers me rather less as a result of, at the very least, there may be pity, and if I really feel pity, at the very least it’s that you’ve got tried to place your self in my place, you have got a little bit coronary heart.

What do you suppose they’re afraid of?

They don't know the best way to discuss to you, the best way to deal with you. And, with reference to flirting, they see a physique like mine, which isn’t fairly, shouldn’t be fascinating, you don't slot in, and goodbye. It hurts me so much as a result of my childhood was very lovely, I really feel very beloved and guarded. But then comes the change: at house you look excellent as a result of they love you and have a look at you fairly. And, after they have a look at you fairly, you have got vanity. But once you depart your loved ones and meet new individuals you understand that incapacity impacts and frightens. There are feedback that you just don't like and your vanity goes down, you suppose that possibly you aren’t as cool as you thought.

And how is your vanity, at 35 years outdated?

A Little higher. I do know I'm value it. Before I used to be fairly cocky, he checked out me and informed me: I’m so good-looking. If others don't like me, it could be due to this physique I’ve, one thing I can't change. I can try to love myself, however I can not try to please others. It's sophisticated.

Telmo Irureta in the atrium of the Fernán Gómez theater in Madrid, where he performs the show 'Sexpiertos'.
Telmo Irureta within the atrium of the Fernán Gómez theater in Madrid, the place he performs the present 'Sexpiertos'.Bernardo Perez

Have you been in love?

I believe not, however as a result of they don't give me causes. People usually are not ok with me to make me fall in love. They don't give me time. Sometimes I fall in love with a fantastic physique, however I ponder what has he achieved to have that physique, or that face? It shouldn’t be his benefit. I like individuals inside and have you learnt what hurts me probably the most?


That nobody offers me the chance to know myself and to have the ability to, who is aware of, fall in love with me, due to the concern and rejection that I informed you earlier than. Being homosexual, the subject of intercourse is simpler, as a result of males are extra like come on, do you need to fuck? Come on, goodbye.

Have your sexual contacts at all times been like this?

There has been a little bit little bit of every part, however when it hasn't been paid, I’ve needed to settle. I’ve not been with who I needed, however with whom he has been keen to be with me. And they’ve solely been with me out of morbidity, unhappiness or fee. On the Internet, I inform them that I’m in a chair and that they care. And possibly they don't care, as a result of we've talked a little bit bit earlier than, on-line. But in the event that they see you on the road, they don't even have a look at you.

In the work he confesses his fears and needs with no filter. Aren't you ashamed?

I’m very exhibitionist, however there are issues that I don't inform, not a lot out of modesty, however relatively to not harm different individuals. I don't prefer to think about individuals in my household fucking, however it is very important speak about it to present visibility to the sexuality of disabled individuals. That we’ve it. Sometimes I say, what want do I’ve to be right here in public and for everybody to see me? But once I suppose that there aren’t any disabled actors, that there are completely different our bodies, and that there are individuals I may help, that encourages me to proceed.

How do you suppose you may assist?

No one stops to take heed to you on the road. So, I’ve a spotlight and I make the most of it. Nobody imagines a disabled particular person in all their dimensions. We are sexual beings. Sex and incapacity don’t go collectively, like incapacity and architectural limitations. Barriers don't curiosity me as a lot as intercourse. Let me get into the sexual world too. It's mine too, not simply yours. Physical limitations are simpler to interrupt down, take away the step and that's it, however psychological limitations usually are not.

That seize Can they make intercourse accessible to them?

The ones who must adapt are us. Sexual providers, for instance. Sexual help. I consider that jobs are paid, and those that are intercourse staff are working. It can be cool if there have been public assist, as a result of intercourse can be well being, and there are those that can not pay for it. But, in the event that they don't assist us, at the very least allow us to pay. Don't inform me that's not proper, I'm paying for it.

And the rights and the dignity of the particular person who pays?

Sex is a human proper, a fundamental want. If you’re a nurse and you might be wiping asses, why is poop cleaner than semen, in case you are a voluntary intercourse assistant? Because intercourse is said to need and the one who helps you have got intercourse doesn’t have that need, so it’s like you might be raping them. And the phrase prostitution is harmful as a result of it creates confusion and we affiliate it with exploitation. I don't defend that. I defend individuals who dedicate themselves to that as a result of they’ve freely determined to take action, as a result of they don't need to be a waiter, or for no matter purpose. But freely.

In Sexpiertos He asks the general public a query: “Would you masturbate a friend who couldn't do it and asked you to?” He blew my thoughts.

You would do it?

Ummm. No. Do you?

I do. But I perceive you. And I don't choose anybody. Nobody has skilled my scenario. Maybe you don't perceive me. There are additionally many issues that I don't perceive about somebody who doesn't have a incapacity. Your issues could appear to be much less issues to me as a result of I’m not in a position to put myself in your sneakers. But then I additionally complain about bullshit.

As which?

Arriving late to locations. I can calculate the time it takes for the particular person helping me to scrub me and costume me, however then, on the road, my hand falls asleep and I’ve to attend for him to get up to proceed strolling with the chair. Or when my head hurts. I'm a little bit insufferable, I complain so much.

You have a Goya, promote your self as an actor.

I might like to play a bastard. Son of a bitch, as a result of disabled individuals could be and do something. I actually prefer to undress emotionally, however since they don't name me, I write the papers myself. Now I bear in mind a documentary about myself, in order that they’ll get to know me and discover a boyfriend. Let's see in the event that they purchase it for me.


Telmo Irureta has a lizard tattooed on his left forearm. “It is a tribute to my mother. When they told her that she could not be with me in the ICU when, at the age of two, I suffered from encephalitis, she told the doctors that she would always be attached to the wall where her son was, like a lizard to the sun,” says this 35-year-old actor whose sickness left him with cerebral palsy that makes him depending on a wheelchair to maneuver. Telmo has such an intimate relationship together with her that he has named him after her. “His name is Vicio Silla, in two words,” he says, dying of laughter. Wild humor and, on the identical time, tenderness, are two of the nice belongings of Irureta, nephew of the actress Elena Irureta who, after learning Teaching, determined to dedicate herself to performing. In 2023 he received the Goya for finest new actor for Spring consecration, a movie that addressed the sexual lives of disabled individuals. Now, he presents the play on the Fernán Gómez theater in Madrid. Sexpiertos, which he wrote with Kepa Errasti, and performs with Miren Arrieta, and which delves into the controversial situation of intercourse for granted. Far from avoiding debate, she encourages it.

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